Unavailable for Stress.

 "Unavailable for stress" is short but simply explanatory. This particular saying has been on my WhatsApp bio for awhile now and though it's just a three words, I realized it describes a lot about my kind of person in just a glance. I'll tell you how.

     I've always been this calm and reserved person, some people would say I'm quiet, shy and introverted. well, introverted is correct, but shy and quiet, I'm not sure that describes me. Reserved is the word instead. Just like an ocean, there are times when there's peace and calm and then, there's the strong tides and waves that brings a storm. My personality is just like that, calm, peaceful and quiet but the storm exists too, it's just on very rare occasions. 

   As an introvert, a lot of things go on in my head inwardly, thoughts, analysis, plans, just about anything. All these keeps me company, entertained. So, whenever there's an interruption in balance by things that aren't just relevant to me or intriguing or more interesting, that is stress. stress is all the value less pressure, strain, disturbance  physically, mentally emotionally, socially etc.

    As a calm and reserved person, quarrel or fighting is a huge turn off. I avoid scenarios that leads to altercation, disrespect. I dread quarrelsome people. please don't stress me. 

    It's so cool and safe to be indoors though, it's a haven. it's energy saving, refreshing. some people think that's laziness but no, it's not. I'm not lazy because I'm protecting my energy or doing what suits me best. Being outdoors unnecessarily is exhausting and stressful especially if it's not yielding income or adding value, not fun or interesting or without interesting people or it's not adding to my knowledge. All I see is stress.

Crowd or spotlight, a socially exuberant setting, playing, partying, hanging out with friends is fun to do, believe me, I enjoy them. But not for long periods. My social battery drains and I'm craving to be left alone in solitary to recharge. so, prolonged socializing without rest is stress too.

As a super energy saver, I don't like doing anything that's more than my power and out of my capabilities. I prefer soft, easy going, interesting tasks, chores, assignments, work,  whatever that is just less stressful, something I'll enjoy doing. I do them meticulous well, paying attention to details to give in my best. All forms of heavy duty work is stress, count me out.

Talking sometimes drains my energy. if I have to  repeatedly explain myself to you, honestly, you are stressing me. I can rarely be seen in a heated argument or just ranting or nagging or speaking loudly, or even shouting for that matter. I could literally pass out if anyone or anything demands that I talk for hours non-stop or being around loquacious people. That's really stressful, you are giving me headache. I sometimes prefer to write things down. In extreme conditions of quietness, I write faster than I speak. Except of course, it's something of interest. As a curious person, intriguing things always captures my attention. Deep conversations, intellectual discussion, how to make money. I like to know things. if it's not serving any of these. STRESS!

Having an active mind that's constantly busy with one thought process or another, imagining, planning, thinking, analysis, calculating, organizing, reading. its pretty much a big deal going on up there. I like to keep it free from worries, pressure, stress. You know why? so that there's a dynamic flow of positivity, ease of learning and improvement, creativity, providing value, making money, and being my best self. Any stress is negative and emotionally draining. Emotional turmoil of any kind is stress, petty relationship matters, Toxic relationships and people is stress, bad energy is stress, being hungry is stress.

Speaking of Hunger, that is the greatest stress of all time. A hungry man is an angry man literally, when I'm hungry, I'm thrown off balance by several steps. Not like I eat large portions of food, but you see those short-interval-small-portion meals is the best. Anything that will keep me away from food or eating screams stress in capital letters.

Nevertheless, I put in a lot of conscious effort in important things, even though the stress is past my gauge I try, because is for a greater good and it's worthy. I have determination and resilience when pursuing goals. I harness my energy stored up and stay focused. Things like working, building , creating lasting valuable relationships and friendships , putting effort to learn new things, making money, self improvement, spiritual awareness etc.

so, when I say I'm "unavailable for stress" I'm generally talking about all that isn't value able or worth my time, I'll rather be all by myself in my own safe space than be involved with stress.

© DeeOn